To keep cohorts small, safe, and well-matched for live practice. We look at readiness, goals, and schedule fit.

The Elara Institute Cycle-Breaking Mother's Club understands the complexity of breaking cycles. This work needs to focus both on mother's well-being and parenting support. Most current models of support only support mothers in one area or the other - we meet mothers at the overlap. We believe that to effectively break generational cycles mothers need support for their own well-being AND support in their parenting. Furthermore, breaking generational cycles needs community support - this isn't work that happens in individual therapy or coaching alone. We draw on years of research into trauma healing, intergenerational trauma, and parenting to guide everything that we do.

Also, we're pretty awesome, trauma-informed, neuro-affirming, and always lead with compassion.

Community safety and culture are the most important aspects of our community. We have clearly established community guidelines, and we are involved in the community space daily to ensure community guidelines are upheld. To protect tender stories and keep groups small and steady, parts of our community are accessible by paid members only. These rooms are moderated, never recorded, and designed for deeper connection and support.

🌿 The Cycle-Breaking Mothers Club

A neuro-affirming, trauma-informed community to practise tiny, doable steps toward calmer, more connected homes—using the REPAIR™ framework as our guide.

💛 Our Shared Culture

We grow through reflection, compassion, and connection. Healing happens in relationship—through safety, curiosity, and shared humanity. Every comment, post, and act of encouragement helps shape the culture of this village.

1️⃣ Protect Our Collective Safety

We share stories that are ours to tell and protect the privacy of others. Please de-identify children, partners, or professionals, and keep all posts within this community. No screenshots, recordings, or reposts beyond this space. (If a post raises safety concerns, Elara’s duty-to-report obligations may apply.)

2️⃣ Lead with Compassion

Assume good intent. Regulate before replying. Speak gently. If you’d like to reach out privately, ask first—“DM okay?” keeps our consent culture alive.

3️⃣ Honour Each Other’s Process

We’re not here to fix one another; we’re here to witness, reflect, and support. Offer advice only by invitation, and always in “I” language:

“What helped me was…” Avoid clinical labels, prescriptions, or diagnoses—this is a space for shared learning, not professional treatment.

4️⃣ Participate with Presence

We can’t grow as a community if everyone stays silent. Your presence—whether a comment, a heart reaction, or a short share—keeps this space alive. Engagement looks different for everyone; some days you may only read and breathe, other days you may post or respond. Do what feels safe—but stretch gently toward connection. When we share our reflections, wins, or struggles, we give others permission to do the same.

(Ideas: reply to one post each week, join a live event, or share a “tiny repair” you practised this week.)

5️⃣ Share Safely

Because this is a learning community—not therapy—please keep trauma stories non-graphic. Use content warnings for sensitive topics and save deep processing for therapy or private supports. Your story is sacred; share it in ways that feel grounding and respectful to all nervous systems here.

6️⃣ Build a Culture of Kindness & Inclusion

We celebrate difference and strive for belonging. No shaming, harassment, or hate speech. It’s okay to disagree—do it with care and curiosity. No “shoulds.” No hierarchy of healing. Just real people doing their best.

7️⃣ Keep Our Space Free of Promotion

This is a community, not a marketplace. Please don’t sell, recruit, or DM pitch. Resource shares are welcome only in designated threads, with credit to creators.

8️⃣ Know What This Space Is (and Isn’t)

Elara offers education, mentorship, and peer connection—not psychotherapy or crisis care. If you are in crisis or unsafe, please reach out to local emergency or crisis supports. You never have to carry this work alone.

✨ Our Collective Promise

Show up with compassion. Pause before reacting. Protect one another’s dignity. Practise the REPAIR™ way—Reflect, Empower, Practice, Align, Integrate, Reclaim—together.

Short answer: yes, fathers (and all caregivers) break cycles. This space is focused on mothers to create the deepest psychological safety and resonance for a group facing distinct pressures—matrescence, mother-shame, gendered expectations, and caregiving load. When members share similar lived context, they open up faster, practice more honestly, and get better peer support.

Longer answer: our curriculum, examples, and coaching are tailored to the emotional themes mothers bring most often (e.g., invisible labor, “good mom” scripts, sensory/ND needs in the home, and mother–child attachment repair). Keeping the container mother-centered protects that focus and reduces the self-censoring many moms feel in mixed groups.

Inclusive note: parents who mother (including non-binary and trans moms) are welcome. We also offer mixed-caregiver workshops and plan partner/father offerings so all caregivers have a place to do this work. If you’re a father or another primary caregiver, join the waitlist or grab our open events/resources—we want you in this movement, too.